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Tell Me What You Think


Do you know why people ask what you think? So they can tell you what they think.

There are times when people ask my opinion. That is just stupid, for so many reasons. But I have come to realize that what they really want is to give their opinion. That's why they ask. In my opinion, they should simply ask me if they can present me with their thoughts. They would get to talk and I would get to save my breath.

Someone, anyone really, and I will have a conversation that goes like this.

Someone: What did you think of this book?
Me: I liked it for the following reasons.
Someone: Well, I hated it.

Or they may ask about a movie we both recently saw.

Someone: What did you think of that movie?
Me: I thought it was epic for the following reasons.
Someone: Here's why it wasn't good at all.

Oh, ok.

Perhaps if I took the advice given in James 1:19.

"Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry."

If, when asked for my opinion, I simply shrugged and asked them their opinion, I could fulfill all three of these directives in one simple move. I'd be listening, which means I wouldn't be talking. Plus, I wouldn't have any reason to get angry when my opinion was shown to be the thoughts of an imbecile.

I don't know....what do you think?
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