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More Than Just The Talk


I can't tell you how many times I have been in front of my youth group and said, 'Yes, I'm talking about sex!' It's not that I always plan to talk about sex. But I'm not one to shy away from the topic either.

And every time (really) they look at me as if I've just said something naughty. Oh, wait...they do think I've said something naughty. And it's probably because the Church, in general, has often treated sex as a taboo topic.

We, the Church in general, could choose to go on like this, stuttering and stammering any time the topic is brought up. Or we could fulfill the subtitle of Jonathan McKee's new book; More Than Just The Talk; Becoming Your Kid's Go-To Person About Sex.

Soooo, parents and youth workers, say it with me....seeeeexxxxxx.

Now that we've said it, let's talk about McKee's new book. He lays down a solid foundation, explaining very explicitly that sex was God's idea and sex was God's gift. (Can I get an Amen?!?) He emphasizes this to help change our perspective. Yes, sex has been a very misused gift. But when we're teaching our kids, we should be teaching them God's perspective.

After laying this foundation, McKee goes on to talk about toothbrushes, grandmas, and some of the latest stats and findings. He speaks explicitly and plainly, making the book feel very much like a conversation.

Is it sometimes awkward? Well, yeah, but as Jonathan notes, sex is a very personal and intimate act, so it will feel awkward at times.

Is it straightforward? You bet. He talks parts and desires and leaves no stone uncovered.

Is it Biblical truth? Unashamedly so. There is also a teen book, Sex Matters, to get all these needed conversations moving. It's even coming just in time for all those youth pastors who plan spring teaching themes around purity and dating.

So, if you're going to talk about sex, I recommend this book as a very useful tool. You can pick it up here - http://www.jonathansresources.com/Books/TheTalk.aspx


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