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By We I Mean You

Have you ever noticed how people will say one thing and mean another? I don't mean when people lie, but when they try to hint in subtle ways. Here are some that I've discovered along the way.

When they say...What are you doing this Saturday?      
What they mean is...Would you like to help me move?

When they say...Do you have a minute?
What they mean is...Because I'd like to bare my soul to you for the next 45  minutes.

When they say...Can you help me for a second?
What they mean is...I need you to show me how to use the copying machine, then write down step-by-step instructions and then watch me do it.

When they say...Oh, are you closing in 5 minutes?
What they mean is....I'm sure you won't mind me as I take the next 20 minutes of your life away.

And I'm sure I have been guilty along the way. Here's one I use on our awesome church secretary (I'm sure she'll read this). Can we get this mailing out today? Or can we possibly get this event organized in the next week?

She's come to learn that by 'we' I mean 'her'.

But by 'we' I mean 'you' and sometimes by 'we' I mean 'me'. It really just depends on the context.

If it's something I don't want to do, I mean you. If it's something good, and I want credit, then I mean me.

Yeah, I struggle not making this all about me. Hello? That's why I'm searching. If I had this mastered, I'd already have a book written and it would probably have my picture on the cover. Then I'd rename my blog to say this is how I found insignificance.

But I haven't written a book....yet. And I didn't rename the blog.

This is my search for insignificance.
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